No photo, very little stitching this month.
In July, I wrote about a gravestone being on my grave - but not MY gravestone. The cemetery woman had indeed resold my grave. Selling something that you don't own, is fraud. Her first solution was to move ME!.... No - Hell No. Reselling my grave and putting a stone on it - still doesn't make it your grave. Move the stone. So the cemetery board approved the money to move the stone about 20 feet. It would be taken care of... That was July 2, 2016.
In mid November 2016, I was told that stone is still on my grave. That would be 4.5 months later and nothing had happened. It's a long story - and I did threaten the woman with the dying husband - that if she wanted to side and defend the cemetery women - I could end this - I can make that stone just disappear. I told her - I can't light a fire under the cemetery woman - but I can light your butt ablaze, and you've had 4.5 months, and your husband is still dying - I'm done playing - you've had more than enough time to move it - so time's up. She said - it's being taken care of - I said, that's funny - I was told those same words 4.5 months ago... I said if you are now defending the cemetery woman - and that she's had 4.5 month and it's not enough time - you are backing the wrong horse. I said - I just got the names and phone numbers of all the cemetery board members - maybe you need to go around and above the cemetery woman - would you like to copy those names and phone numbers and make a few phone calls? She said, Yes, but since the morning would be Sunday, she really didn't think it would do much good to call anybody... but Monday...
I said - Did you just give me an excuse of why this is going to continue to drag out? Are you kidding me?
So Monday at 8:15 am she calls me - she has talked to everybody - and told them they will come up with a date that this will be done - today - no more excuses. She calls me back saying it will be done by Thursday. I then go talk to the stone moving guy at his store. I want to hear his side off all this. I am not mad at him - I just want the truth. What happened to delay this? When was he told? - and, what was he told?. He was told July 2 that it had to be moved - that she had marked the wrong grave to put the stone on.... Oh, that's the lie - right there. She marked the grave she sold - and you put the stone on the grave she marked. And now she wants to say - oops, silly me, I marked the wrong grave. It's sounds better than - I sold something that was already sold, and she won't move- and it's fraud and I was caught - and I didn't think she'd have a receipt - but she does.
But I tell him exactly that, and I understand his point of view - he's a busy guy - and this was the thing he had to do - without an actual dead person. He is the sexton at 6 or more other cemeteries in this area, selling graves and meeting those people on a moments notice, plus selling gravestones. He would be marking where to dig graves and put stones in those cemeteries. Cemetery woman was going out of town for the 4th of July and she had to mark where to put it. She said, I'll do it after I get back - and he said - fine - call me then. And she didn't . Not for a couple months, and then it was back on his to do list - and it flooded here - and then it fell off his list. I can see that happening. He's busy enough that you would have to remind him, or check back with him. And I have no problem that if the choice is to go mark a grave to be dug - or moving a headstone - you go mark the grave first. From time to time - I'm the person that needed the grave dug. I didn't go in there yelling - I said I just wanted the truth - not mad - he put the stone where she marked - that is his job. I did not know that he was/is the sexton at all those other places. Funny thing is - my uncle is a gravedigger at those other cemeteries, so he knows him. My uncle has dug 1000 graves. That was his goal and he just made that goal and he has kept a list of those people over the years. And he hand digs the graves. Always has.
It was that Monday I talked to him and he said that the stone owner woman had called him, Cemetery woman had called him, and a cemetery board member had called him - and I showed up in his store. He told me he would move it Wednesday. The next day - Tuesday - I go to the cemetery and he is there and pouring the new base and resetting that stone into the wet cement. I watched him finish. Then I drove to the stone owner woman and I said, it's done - I watched them, I know it's done. That I would not have made her stone disappear - it would have been terrible karma - she didn't deserve this - and neither did I - but it had to be taken care of, it's going to freeze, it was now, or spring. So I pushed you hard - I'm sorry - but it had to be done. And it turns out - if you are pushed and call on a Monday - by Tuesday at 5 pm and dark - it's done. And it cost them $600 to move that stone. And cemetery woman took more than 4.5 months and nothing moved, and when I pushed you - it was done in two days. But I should not have had to push at all. She said she told the board member that Cemetery woman probably should not be in charge. But the board members just say - she's still learning. They actually think that there is nobody else willing to do it, so they keep her. But that's the longer part of the story.
But I have MY grave back. And I learned lots of things. And I know I was supposed to talk to Harold and I skipped that part the first time. But I did talk to him this time. He told me wonderful stories - things that were important for me to hear. And if all of this had gotten fixed the first time - I don't get to hear those stories. And I don't talk to the stone guy - and he took the time to show me cemetery grave maps and how the graves are recorded when sold at other cemeteries. Which would be something most people never see. But things I find interesting and love to see and learn about.
Yep, my life is weird - but if you get to see things and hear things that are about things you love to see and hear about - it's all good. But I really didn't want to push a woman with a dying husband.
But not right that she would buy a grave and stone - and find out about me - and then it's not just taken care of - so he dies before spring - and she has to put him on the shelf - because nobody pushed to move a stone before winter and before he dies....
All this never happens if when she went to record that she had sold the grave in the book and map and index cards - and she hits my name - she stops - but SHE kept pushing - he will die and be in that grave - nobody will make them move then. They won't have a receipt - or proof - I can erase the card - I can lie - they would have to have a receipt and I can see on the stone next to that grave - she has been dead 5 years - the receipt would be 15 years old - it's gone - it's lost....
But the main thing she's forgetting all the time - Harold's not dead. Talking to Harold - he told me he remembers that day. I said I certainly do too - my dad had just died - my mom and I were there to pick out graves. But I know that part of that was my mom asking - am I buying two graves or three? And we talked about it in front of you. But it would be a detail, and I would not expect you to remember that detail. He then tells me, that he kept a log of the checks he deposited, the names, dates, and amount of the check. So he would have just needed to see - was it for $600, or $900, two or three. See, I didn't need a receipt at all - all I needed was Harold. She doesn't know he has proof.
Harold already knew that a headstone was on the wrong grave, and was going to have to be moved. But not who's grave. And I don't know those people - they would consider me a nobody. But Harold has known me 50 years - not well, but he told me days into this - when I showed up to talk to him - he said - I just knew I was supposed to help you.
And he did.
But that's another story.
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